Sharing your full name, email address or phone number can give people you’re meeting access to a lot more information about you than you may realize, from where you work to where you live and even a list of friends and associates.
Keep your full name private until you feel comfortable, and use a , people often say they are taller than they actually are and make more money than they actually earn; there’s a good chance they are embellishing about their age too.
Replicating our behaviour offline, women tend not to make contact in online dating, men still send four times more messages than women.
However, we know from research by Kreager, Cavanagh, Yen and Yu (2014) that when women do take the initiative they are twice as likely to form a connection, and they are more likely to connect with a highly desirable and attractive partner.
Maybe you’re currently dating online, but you’re sick and tired of illiterate profiles and messages.
What about the people who don’t even read your profile and just comment on your photos? Call me.” And what about the Cut-and-Paste-dater, the one who sends the same email to 100 people, hoping a few will respond? Yep, a lot of creeps and people who never grew up are dating online. As annoying as those people can be, they don’t represent the entire population.
As a Cyberpsychologist I find it fascinating to look at how this changes the way we meet and decide on the people who will become our mates.
While dating online is successful and positive for many people, it can often be frustrating, and at times an uncomfortable or distressing experience.
—Have you stopped dating online because it didn’t work?
Over half daters have experienced someone seriously misrepresenting themselves in online dating.
I always recommend that daters meet a person for the first time in a public place and let someone know where they will be and who they will be with.
Women could take the initiative to make contact, potentially finding a better mate and more enjoyable dating experience.
Men could be more selective about who they write to with personalised contact messages that will stand out from the crowd.