He was a virgin who had been home-schooled his whole life—an unusual profile for the author of a book proposing “a new attitude toward romance and relationships,” as the subtitle put it.
He married at 23 and later served as the pastor of an evangelical megachurch in Maryland for more than a decade.
Over the years he wrote more books about dating and marriage, including , he is the father of three kids—two of them teenagers—and he is pursuing formal education for the first time in his life.
And these days, he’s having very mixed feelings about the book that turned him into a Christian celebrity.
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Then another joins them, and another, and another, forming an ominous chain at the altar.“Part of the reason this has been so hard for me is that I have so much of my identity tied up in these books.It’s what I’m known for,” Harris told me recently from Vancouver, British Columbia, where he moved his family last year to enroll in a graduate program at evangelical Regent College.It was even better not to even kiss before you got to the altar, Harris suggested, and beware of “emotional hookups,” too.He shared scary and supposedly true stories like Ben and Lisa’s: Christians who dated seriously, had sex, eventually broke up, and years later still “expressed emotional trauma and guilt.” .The goal is to help the couple get to know each other on a friendship level before becoming romantic.The presence of others also helps limit opportunities for sexual activity, which bring us to the next point ... A bride is walking down the aisle toward her beloved on their wedding day.Stained glass, string quartet: Everything is perfect.Nowadays, one-on-one date nights are basic protocol for people in relationships.While the same applies to many courting couples, traditional courtship encourages group dates before private time.