You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.To get some insight into what women go through on these dating websites, I pulled aside one of my family members who I knew had spent some time on these sites looking for her future spouse.It made me SO uncomfortable that guys so much older than me, older than most of my siblings (all of which are 8 years plus older than me), were sending me messages telling me that I was “hot”.I am getting terribly uncomfortable just thinking about it.
What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.In hindsight, I suppose if I had stayed active with it for a little longer MAYBE I would have encountered a “nice” guy.I have to mention that I did get maybe a message or two from guys that seemed okay, but once I checked out their profiles, it didn’t seem like we had anything in common so I didn’t bother.Also, some of the messages I got were from a few guys that ranged from early 40’s to late 40’s and I was maybe 19 at the time.That was one of the main reasons I called it quits.That’s one of the issues I see with online dating though.Words on a page can only tell you so much and often, they are not the best “first impressions”.So there you are, swiping through Bumble or Tinder or your dating app of choice. Secondly, more often that not, one of your friends is hotter than you so when we work out which one you are, we’re going to be disappointed.First picture: Oh, a trio of men in which one is definitely hot. Worse than the guy who had haemorrhoid cream in the backdrop of his photo. Even the people who don’t have friends have pictures with other people that make it look like they do. Believe it or not, we’re not looking to date a whole rugby team at once. Thirdly, they often mean we can’t really see you clearly.“They think it makes them look popular.” But Nelson thinks group photos are a bad move on your dating profile and will put people off: “For example, people might fancy the person's friends more or not like the look of their friends at all, thinking that perhaps they wouldn't fit well with their lifestyle.” She points to research which claims that when men in particular are pictured with the opposite sex, this can create negative feelings and jealousy amongst the women checking out their profiles.Or, to be honest, it can just make a woman admire the girl in question’s hair/shoes/awesome glittery makeup more than the man she’s meant to be considering.