Stop Talking: One of the most common errors (at least in western society) is that people stop talking about a person once he/she has died.Do not act like your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s past mate never existed. Do not assume that your boyfriend/girlfriend is mad at you, or hates you, or doesn’t want to be with you anymore because he or she is sad.But it can be a long, slow process to find a new partner who understands and accepts what you have been through.And there will inevitably be some guilt, some practical hurdles and some emotional highs and lows to navigate along the way.And then there’s the reactions of other people to deal with – not least your in laws and your own children, if you’re a parent.
You sweat, hoping that that bungee cord we call karma is gonna hold?The slightest emotional rejection could plunge you back into the depths of despair.And you may also be plagued by feelings of guilt and uncertainty.One WAY member who recently remarried after nine years on her own said that falling in love again has actually made her miss her late husband even more than she did before: “Life is undoubtedly happier, less lonely, richer and more exciting,” she says.“But it can be complicated too – and the swirl of emotions can sometimes be quite overwhelming.” If you do decide you’re ready to find love again, there’s a whole host of Internet dating websites out there – some are specially tailored to single parents or to people who've been widowed.Grieving is hard work and it takes a lot of energy.Are you looking for others with whom you can relate?There are discussion threads about new relationships on our Members’ Only website and on our closed Facebook page too – dealing with topics ranging from telling the in-laws about a new romance to when is the right time to take off your wedding ring.Many WAY members do find love again – some WAY members are even now happily married again.Others report that potential dates run a mile when they say they've been widowed. Follow some basic on-line dating rules: Always meet up with someone in a public place the first time you meet. Get them to call you during the date in case you need an excuse for a hasty exit!