Ultimately, remember, you're not the point of the relationship—Jesus is.Point each other to Christ and let Christ knit you together as he sees fit.I have a job that sucks, but I won't bitch about it too much.(Okay, maybe I will.) I'd like to tell you I hang glide and build soup kitchens in Haiti, but last Saturday I got drunk at home and watched an entire season of_ Gossip Girl_.Don't call yourself any of the following: witty, ambitious, down-to-earth, or humble.
Third, the Word of God truly preached brings us by the power of the Spirit into the presence of Christ. You also want your significant other to have communion with the body of Christ outside of your own relationship. Did you note the developing trend in the four points above?
To cap off my dating advice, I'd like to offer a warning and an encouragement. It does mean you have grounds for thinking it through with care. Finally, the encouragement: Men, make it your aim to be the first to encourage your sweetheart to be involved in fellowship with other believers, and the last to feed any desire to cut off from corporate worship.
First the warning: If you enter the relationship and suddenly stop going to church, pray less, and read less, that's probably a sign it's not heading in a godly direction. Be as diligent about carving out time for corporate worship as you are in carving “alone time” (the benefits of which should probably also be up for debate).
Indeed, I don't know a single godly couple who would tell you otherwise. We need to feast on this truth regularly, or we will be tempted to draw strength from other, lesser sources, like your own relationship. First, they do the negative work of preventing the greatest danger in any “Christian” dating relationship—no, not sexual sin, but the human tendency to make an idol out of the beloved.
Usually this idolatry justifies sexual sin and so many other relational pathologies.