"A relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other" puts marriage on the table when the couple have not yet committed to such an end.This is no different than dating when two people get too intimate too fast (I do not mean sexually) and give away a piece of their heart. I am now married to a wonderful Christian man and we have 4 children.(See Proverbs 3:5–7.) Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.
It is a decision to walk by faith, to trust in God, to honor others above yourself, and to believe that God will deal bountifully with you, because He is love.
Jesus gave this instruction with a promise: (Matthew ).
When a person makes a growing relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ the foundation of all decisions—as he or she seeks God’s kingdom—God will provide all that is needed, including the marriage partner prepared by God just for that person.
When you only are allowed to get to know someone with your parents or a chaperone present, you get to know the Sunday best of the person.
This is in many cases, a very dangerous practice disguised as a perfect formula for a happy and successful marriage.