“Once they have committed a certain amount of time — typically six months — they like to hold on as long as possible.” It’s hard to let go of something after you’ve sunk a lot of hard work and energy into it.“They've dumped their love, attention, money and time into this relationship and they want a return,” she says. So they like to ensure that there is no possible way for the relationship to give them their return, and then they leave,” she says.
“This typically happens after the first or second year mark."“After a year or so, the new relationship euphoria begins to wear off, and reality sets in,” Tina B. Romance, psychotherapist and author of How to Be Happy Partners: Working it out Together, tells Bustle.
“You can't run around like this forever, and eventually you are going to need your brain back,” she says.
“In the beginning, relationships are like a trial run and sometimes they just don't work out,” she said.“We recently interviewed relationship expert Neil Strauss, who says that there are three stages to the first year of a relationship: projection, disillusionment, and a power struggle.” In the beginning, things are perhaps a bit rosy than they really are.
“For instance, we know that around the three-to-four-month mark, we know that the representative [image] typically fades away.” By then, you really start seeing your partner.
“Between the five-to-six-month mark, people are typically really trying to decipher their feelings, and by the seventh-to-ninth-month mark, they are trying to determine if they really want to be with you.”Coming up on a year, stuff gets real.
“It takes more than a year to truly know if you and your partner are compatible; however, it takes less than a year to know if your partner is worth the effort of love.” They might be worth the effort, but if you aren’t compatible, you won’t likely last the test of time.
Just like we’re more likely to break up with someone around the one year mark, we’re also more likely to split up during certain holidays and such.