Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men) is a bestselling author and relationship expert specializing in today’s evolving forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. Bathe or shower within three hours before your date; 9. Never spend more than approximately .00 on a woman for your very first date with her; 3.Ideally, you should engage in at least one lengthy (thirty minutes minimum) phone conversation with a woman prior to your first formal ‘date’ with her; 2.If it becomes apparent that she is not impressed with your choice of venue, smile confidently and say to her: “This is not your kind of place, is it?” Remember this should come across more like a statement than a question.Women like to create a sense of mystery, and you should be conveying this yourself, too. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree.Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”.
Telling a girl how nervous you are is not going to make her attracted to you, of course she will feel sorry for you, and she will be extra ‘nice’ to you throughout the date, but don’t think for a second any of that means anything more than her display of sympathy for you.
We use the word “nice” when describing something we have no real passion for, such as a “nice cup of tea.” Think about things you adore, that excite you or inspire you and then see if the word “nice” can articulate those emotions.
Replace the word “nice”, “lovely” or even “pretty” with something more dynamic and that focuses on a more detailed attribute of hers.
Then tell her that she has to be the one to choose the next date, AGAIN, and this is very important, you must say this in a playful manner.
Always stay committed to your decisions, and never be apologetic about them either.